The fact is we all have a past and no one’s was perfect. Some things were painful and so it makes good sense that we remember them for learning and survival. This is how most of the animal kingdom works, we instinctively learn from experience.

The four primary emotions we authentically feel are Anger, Fear, Joy and Sadness. As we grow up we learn that some feelings serve us better than others, and this is unique to our family circumstance and culture.

No matter what our age, our inner child is our original true self. Some of us may have mastered being a ‘grown up’ but that doesn’t mean we don’t still have child-like feelings sometimes. There’s a part of our personality that can still feel & react as we did when we were young.

We all had a role in our family when growing up. Eldest, youngest, only girl, only boy, surprise baby, only child… whatever our story it’s important that we’re aware of it because it matters so much.

I’m a Child Psychotherapeutic Counsellor, which means I’ve studied a lot of child development theories. I’ve always been obsessed with understanding the ‘whys’ of this world and for me the biggest why of all is ‘Why we turn out the way we do’.